Surprising Relationships

[Transcript of “A 5 minute cuppa” published by Horley Baptist Church on YouTube[1], May 2021]
Sandy

Hi everyone, welcome to ‘a five minute cuppa’. This is the place that you can come any time of day, just for five minutes, to relax, put your feet up, have a cuppa and listen to a few words to help you grow in your relationship with God.

Over the last couple of weeks we have been thinking about how God prompts us to pray for people that are on his heart and we have been practising blessing others and doing them good by speaking through the acronym ‘b l e s s‘ bless – asking for God to do people good in their body, in their labour, their emotions, their social and spiritual relationships.

Today we’re going to think about how we can pray for people and have a good attitude towards them if for some reason we don’t naturally get along or if the relationship isn’t at all easy. It could be a work colleague, a family member, a political figure or well-known personality. It might even be someone that we once got on with well but the relationship or friendship has broken down or failed. I’m sure we can all think of people that we struggle with. Is it possible to pray for these people in the way we do for those that are naturally on our hearts?

I suppose we could just ignore these people in situations – at least we’re not purposefully hurting them. It seems to me though that this isn’t an option for a follower of Jesus. Those famous words of Jesus ring in my ears: “Love your enemies and pray for those that do you harm”.

Is that even possible, humanly speaking? When we look at the world around us both near and far it doesn’t look at all possible. But I believe that when we choose to ask God to come in and help rather than taking the easier option of ignoring or giving into bad thoughts, he does come alongside and show us surprising possibilities that were not at all on our radar. When I am in this situation struggling with the relationship there are two questions I dare to ask God that he always seems to answer.

First, I ask him to show me how he sees the person, not in their failed state but how God created their inner person before life did harm to them. In other words, I’m asking God “Why do you like this person, what is so amazing about them?

Then I ask him to show me what has happened to them to make them the way they are, the things that have formed the negative characteristics that may cause problems both for the person and for those around them.

The result of this is always the same: God softens my heart towards them. I often find I can be with them happily or I can be in the same place and not be affected by the feelings associated with that person previously. Over time I find that rather than choosing to ignore the difficulties I can acknowledge them and pray and bless the person, honestly wanting the best for them. God is full of surprises; he can and does make important relationships happen when we least expect it. He can even rebuild relationships that we think are irretrievably broken.

God is all about making damaged relationships whole. After all, that is the main message of the cross on which our faith firmly stands.


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Bible references: Matthew 5 v44
 

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Contributor: Sandy Turner

Who Needs You?

[This is one in a series of devotional reflections prepared for Horley Baptist Church during May 2021]

Every time we look at a passage of Scripture, prayerfully and with a mind open to the Holy Spirit, we have the possibility to see fresh facets; interpretations and implications that, to us at least, appear new. Sometimes they sparkle, sometimes we have to work a bit to see them and sometimes they are pointed out to us by others. This reflection contains elements of all three.

Recently, I heard a talk based on the parable of the good Samaritan[1]. The presenter drew out several points that maybe we had not noticed previously, one being that the lawyer was asking the right questions, but for the wrong reason – indeed, the text tells us that he wanted to test Jesus.

This raises the matter of motivation. Why do we ask questions? Is it to increase our knowledge or is it to put the respondent on the spot? When we ask “How are you?”, are we actually interested in the answer? After Jesus levelled the score the lawyer thought that he should have another shot, so he asked “Who is my neighbour?” The answer that Jesus gave was much more than our usual understanding of the word.

Your neighbour is not just someone with whom you compete for a parking space or whose cat leaves deposits in your flower bed. Your neighbour is not even someone who takes in your parcel whilst you are out or trims your hedge when you are ill. Jesus redefined neighbour on the basis of need and the willingness to help.

Philanthropy needs resources. Time and money. We might think that maybe the priest was penniless and the Levite was late for an appointment, but that would be to excuse their indifference. By contrast, the Samaritan was willing to risk himself and his resources. It is interesting that Jesus did not make any comments about what motivated these three men but simply left history to judge them. How will history judge your actions?

The gospel of Matthew records the parable of the generous employer[2]. He went out one morning and hired some labourers to work his land; he agreed to pay the going rate for a full day’s work. At various intervals during the day he engaged more workers and sent them to join his earlier group. At the end of the day he paid them all the same, the full rate for the day.

Most of us, having seen ‘johnny come lately’ being treated with such generosity would have expected some kind of added bonus for our length of service and loyalty, and complained when that didn’t happen. From a Western perspective, we might ask whether the employer was wise to upset the economics of the labour market, but such a question misses the point of the parable. This employer treated the workers on the basis of their need rather than their expectations.

Salvation is based on our need, not on our expectations of a reward for effort or endeavour. That’s just as well since our efforts will never meet the required standard. Or, as the apostle Paul wrote:

all have sinned and continually fall short of the glory of God[Romans 3 v23 AMP]


[1] The good Samaritan, Luke 10 v25-37
[2] The generous employer, Matthew 20 v1-16

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Contributor: Steve Humphreys

God makes all things beautiful in its time

[This reflection was published in the weekly news bulletin of Horley Baptist Church, 09/May/2021]

God makes all things beautiful in its time [Ecclesiastes ch 3 v11 NIVUK]

How frustrating it’s been over the last few weeks to have to wait for the night frosts to stop so we can plant bedding plants and sow seeds.

We long for our gardens to radiate vibrant colours that bring pleasure to us and those around us. It’s amazing how some plants survive even the hardest of frosts and yet others wilt and die very quickly. I was thinking about how this relates well to reaching out to people with the good news about Jesus.

Personally, I want everybody to come through to Jesus quickly but a lot of times we need to withstand the frosty looks which can only be thawed out by genuine care, love and long-term friendships through thick and thin.

After the Holy Spirit has prepared the ground through prayer and intercession, Jesus will show us when to plant the seeds. When God is on the move the seeds, we have planted can grow very fast, then we have to be prepared to bring in the harvest.

Are we ready for action, reaching out to those who want to know Jesus, or just enquiring…….? It could be anytime – the frost is clearing now, the ground is prepared, are you ready……?

Don’t you have a saying, “It’s still four months until harvest”? I tell you, open your eyes and look at the fields! They are ripe for harvest. [John 4 v35 NIVUK]

Happy gardening full of fruitfulness, blessings,


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Contributor: Chris Ginter

Is Revival Coming?

[Transcript of a midweek message published by Horley Baptist Church on YouTube[1], May 2021]

At the beginning of Lockdown there was huge excitement about viewing figures and online engagement with church, and very quickly the word ‘revival’ was being used. A year later it hasn’t happened, but what do we actually mean by ‘revival’ and what is our part to play in it?

If we go back a year ago, to the beginning of the pandemic, there was some excitement in church circles because we discovered on-line church and our viewing figures were just going through the roof. We were getting so many more people accessing our online services than we would ever do in physical church.

There was talk in many Christian circles about ‘revival’; this Holy Grail, I guess, of Christian mission, that a society that is largely un-religious and secular would turn back to church and turn back to Christ.

But there’s danger in this understanding of revival because it panders to the idea that if, as Christians, we pray hard enough and we wait, then people will come flooding back to church. In fact, they won’t be coming back to church because they were never at church in the first place.

Actually, a year later, a year on in the pandemic, revival hasn’t happened, people haven’t come flooding back to church, and we’re not even sure what we’re going to have when we return to a physical Sunday service. Revival hasn’t happened and it won’t happen in the way that we hope it will.

If we look at the definition of the word revive it means to bring back to life or bring back to consciousness, to take something that was dead and give it life, to take someone who’s asleep and to wake them up. I think that applies far more to the UK church, to followers of Jesus, than it does to society around us. We need to wake up to the task that lies before us, the task that God has given us. We need to be revived!

It reminds me of the prophet Ezekiel from the Old Testament; one of God’s voices to the nation of Israel. In the vision, Ezekiel is shown by God a valley, a valley filled with dry bones, human remains with no life in them at all. Ezekiel is told to pray over these bones, to prophecy over them that they will have life. As Ezekiel does this, he sees these bones join back together; they have flesh and tendons and skin. Then God tells Ezekiel to prophecy breath into them. God breathes life into these dead bodies and they become a living might army. Now, that is revival. God was saying that this valley, this army of dry bones was the nation of Israel.

I believe that God wants to do what he did to those dry bones to us as his people, the body of Christ, followers of Jesus. We need to be revived, we need to regain consciousness, we need to wake up. Paul, one of the most prolific writers in the New Testament and arguably the most important leader of his time, wrote these words to the Christians in the church at Ephesus. He said, “Wake up, sleeper, rise from the dead, and Christ will shine on you”.

We need to wake up, we need to realise that we need to work really, really hard to turn things around. Yes, prayer is important but prayer if not accompanied by work, if unaccompanied being willing to step out of our comfort zones – well, it’s not going to do anything. God is not going to bring people flooding to the church if we’re not willing to step out of it.

The past year, as a nation, we have woken up to racial injustice, we have woken up to environmental issues but my concern is, that in the past year the Christian church is more asleep than ever.


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[1] YouTube link: Is Revival Coming?
Bible references: Ezekiel 37 v1-14, Ephesians 5 v14
 

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Contributor: Martin Shorey

Sharing God’s Heart

[Transcript of “A 5 minute cuppa” published by Horley Baptist Church on YouTube[1], May 2021]
Sandy

Hi everyone, welcome to ‘a five minute cuppa’. This is the place that you can come any time of day, just for five minutes, to relax, put your feet up, have a cuppa and listen to a few words to help you grow in your relationship with God.

Recently we have been thinking about how to feel comfortable and enjoy praying with others as a way of growing our relationship with our heavenly Father. Today I thought it would be good to share a few thoughts about how to pray for others in our own one-on-one times with God.

Have you ever wondered why particular people or situations stay on your mind and affect your thoughts and emotions? I think it’s God’s way of asking us to bring the person before him and to ask for his influence to grow in their lives. The first step in sharing in God’s heart for people is to recognize when he’s speaking to you about them, then just start bringing them before the Father. Perhaps write your thoughts down using something like a prayer mind map that I talked about in an earlier session of ‘five minute cuppa’.

I’ve found that once I start to intentionally bring someone to the Father then he brings them to my mind often as he wants me to think about or pray for them. This might be in my regular time with Jesus when I’m asking the question “What are you doing today, Lord?” or it might be that I suddenly remember that person in the middle of doing something totally unrelated, as I’m going about my everyday life activities. Sometimes I even wake up in the morning with that person on my mind. When that happens I try to remember the principle of two-way communication. I ask God “What’s going on?” and listen to what he says. I may get a strong feeling or a scripture that gives me knowledge or wisdom for the person’s situation.

I would encourage you to listen out for the way God speaks with you as I suspect it’s slightly different for each of us. When he does speak to you about another person, take a moment to work out what the Father wants you to do. There can be a number of responses:

  • does he want you to pray and bless that person in their situation today?
  • does he want you to check in with that person?
  • is there something he wants you to share with the person to support them or give them encouragement for something they’re facing that day?

Perhaps he wants you to get up and go and do something practical to help.

When you pray for someone regularly you may find you become spiritually sensitive to their needs. I’ve had the experience a few times where God has woken me in the night with the person’s face on my mind and a sense of urgency in my own spirit. I’ve then taken time to pray for them there and then, and either to send a phone message or to contact them the next day. This adds a deeper dimension to both your prayer life and to the spiritual relationships of those you were praying for. I find that the person is drawn closer to the Father. Just realizing that God knows about their situation and cares enough to respond through a friend at just the right time is enough to help them feel a sense of peace for the place they find themselves in. I know I have equally been on the receiving end of such encouragement and it always expands my awareness of the Father’s deep love for me.

I don’t know where you are in your journey of praying for others but, wherever you are, ask the Holy Spirit to show you the next step for you in this two-way relationship with him. As I sign off today the word that comes to my mind is ‘exciting’. May we feel a growing sense of excitement as we see God working out his purposes in the lives of those that we regularly bring before him.


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Contributor: Sandy Turner

May the Fourth be with You

[This is one in a series of devotional reflections prepared for Horley Baptist Church, 04 May 2021]

Unfortunately I cannot make any claim to the originality of the title of today’s thoughts but there are times when something borrowed can be just as helpful as something new. We do well to remember that there is often merit in revisiting old ideas, and the lessons they taught us, rather than always seeking new experiences. Furthermore, exploring new ideas is not itself a new idea!

For all the Athenians and the foreigners who were there spent their time in nothing else but either to tell or to hear some new thing. [Acts 17 v21 NKJV]

The apostle Paul responded to the Athenians’ desire for something new by telling them about how the God that they worshipped as ‘Unknown’ had created the earth and made all the nations from one man. He then told them about the forthcoming judgement and Christ’s resurrection. In a scenario that was not new, some were convinced by his words, others mocked his ideas.

Talking of creation, the fourth of May is ‘World Naked Gardening Day’. Whilst there might be some benefit in the sun’s rays and vitamin D reaching parts that do not normally see them, I rather suspect that the thought of briars and brambles and even thorns on the roses might be something of a deterrent. However it does remind us of the Garden of Eden, free of weeds and tended by Adam and Eve in the form that God had created them.

On this date in 1415 the church reformers John Wycliffe and Jan Hus were condemned as heretics at the Council of Constance. They had not set out to attack the Catholic church but through their studies of the Bible the Holy Spirit had led them to realise that there were many practices in the church of that day that were not in accordance with the teachings with Scripture. They felt compelled to speak out against what they thought was wrong.

Can we talk about the Holy Spirit as a force? The word itself has several meanings: in addition to describing something that compels us, it can also be something that attracts us or the energy with which to achieve something. On that basis, yes, the Holy Spirit is a force.

Force can also refer to a group of people with a common objective, such as those who wish to serve the community in various ways. For example, the fourth of May is also the feast day of Saint Florian, a Christian martyr in Austria in the fourth century. Florian became a senior officer in the Roman army and is credited with setting up one of the first fire-fighting forces. He was martyred because he refused to endorse the persecution of Christians within his area of authority.

Another example of a potent force is a church united in prayer. The Church of England’s Book of Common Prayer includes the following benediction. It’s old but it has not lost any of its relevance.

May the blessing of God Almighty, the Father, the Son, and the Holy Spirit, be upon you and remain with you always. Amen


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Contributor: Steve Humphreys