Better Together

[Transcript of “A 5 minute cuppa” published by Horley Baptist Church on YouTube[1], April 2021]
Sandy

Hi everyone, welcome to ‘a five minute cuppa’. This is the place that you can come any time of day, just for five minutes, to relax, put your feet up, have a cuppa and listen to a few words to help you grow in your relationship with God.

Last week we were thinking about how building quality relationships with others and sharing our spiritual lives helps us to become stronger in our faith. Today we’re going to be putting a little bit more flesh on the bones as we particularly think about how we can become confident to communicate with our heavenly Father in a group situation.

Meeting together is seen as an essential part of our growth but I’m sure most of you listening today will know that meetings set up specifically for prayer are the worst attended sessions in our church calendar. We all have different reasons for struggling with communal prayer. Maybe we struggle to be open or we feel shy to speak in front of others. Perhaps we feel uncomfortable with different personality types but don’t want to upset anyone.

I think it probably is the case that when we’re trying to provide for lots of different characters and styles we end up going for the least offensive route which can then end up being a bit bland. So if praying with others is so important to our spiritual health and our relationships what can we do to make it easier so that it’s something we look forward to eagerly?

I thought I’d share some of my top tips today and then if you’re so inclined you could add one of your own brilliant ideas in the comment section so we can all benefit.

First of all, I found learning to pray in a triplet or a small group first of all really useful, particularly with people that have developed a personal relationship with Jesus and are already used to communicating with Him. If you can make the times you meet regular then you’ll quickly get to know each other well and this helps to develop openness and trust. Combining this with eating breakfast, brunch or lunch together is another great way of relationship building.

Come spiritually prepared if you can and expect God to do something special amongst you. Be prepared to share a scripture or thought or word with others. Try to lay down your own agenda and trust God to speak to you all through the gifts he has given to the people in the group. You don’t have to have your eyes closed the whole time or even put your head in a praying pose unless that helps you.

Remember that prayer can be two-way communication even in a group setting, It’s okay to swap between speaking directly to God and then to each other just like with any other interaction. Become comfortable with pauses as a group and spend time listening as well as speaking, and let your personality shine through. God made us to be social beings and take huge joy in our interactions. It really is okay to have times of laughter during our prayer times and does wonders for our emotional wellness.

Once you’ve become experienced and confident to communicate with God in small groups then transfer this to wider settings. Perhaps add people to your group or set up others particularly for special events or situations where you know you share a heart concern with others.

I really believe that God wants to develop our shared prayer lives into something special. As a friend once said to me at the beginning of my journey in this area: “You’ve been eating cornflakes for a while and cornflakes are really good but God wants to lead you to a place where you can choose from a delicious banquet”. A great analogy for me, I love a bit of variety. The other thing about banquets is that I imagine them to be vibrant and full, a place where people want to be together.

Could that describe our group prayer times? Wouldn’t that be great?


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Contributor: Sandy Turner

Don’t Argue with Me

[This is one in a series of mid-week devotional reflections prepared for Horley Baptist Church during April 2021]

Do you like a good argument? Perhaps ‘debate’ would be a more appropriate word for a discussion of some substance. Obviously, a good debate is one where eventually you carry the day, convincing yourself and, hopefully, your protagonist that you know best. Ideally it should entail a certain amount of effort – a walk-over is no fun – but the eventual outcome should not be in doubt.

Of course, there is the risk that you yourself might be won over by the counter arguments. A friend of mine recently referred me to a book that he had read but he added a note: “I didn’t agree with everything he said, but it was still a very worthwhile read nonetheless”. Often we can learn more from the people that we disagree with rather than from those who simply confirm what we think we already know. The disagreement forces us to examine why we differ, and potentially makes us stronger in our faith.

I rather suspect that the apostle Paul would endorse that line of thought. He had disagreements with Barnabas, John Mark and Peter to name just three, and they were supposed to be on the same side as him. It may be that these ‘friendly’ altercations were a useful experience when he came to argue with the governing authorities.

The trouble comes when you take on God as your adversary. You know who is going to win in the end and no amount of logical argument, verbosity or procrastination is going to change that.

In Genesis 18 we see Abraham trying to argue with God before the destruction of Sodom; he changed the criteria but the result was the same. Similarly, in Exodus 4 we see Moses trying to argue his way out of the commission to lead Israel. The text tells that he made God angry but once again it didn’t change the outcome. Jonah didn’t even bother to argue; he just ran away. After an in-depth lesson in marine biology he too did as he was told.

Taking about maritime experiences, there was Peter at Joppa, relaxing by the sea and anticipating a generous helping of fish and chips when God presented him with a different menu. Three times he tried to refuse it, claiming that what he saw was offensive and contrary to his culture. This same Peter who had previously addressed his message of salvation only to people of the Jewish faith was about to be taught a lesson about prejudice and exclusion. A request from a Roman centurion for Peter to visit him resulted in Peter discovering that gentile hospitality was not as distasteful as he had expected.

Are you being called to do something illogical or irrational? Maybe even something counter-cultural? God is not averse to confirming the call but His will takes precedence.

There’s a work for Jesus, ready at your hand,
’Tis a task the Master just for you has planned.
Haste to do His bidding, yield Him service true;
There’s a work for Jesus none but you can do.
[Elsie Yale, 1912]

In His sermon on the mount Jesus gave us an example of how to pray. Are you willing to echo these words?

… your kingdom come, your will be done, on earth as it is in heaven.
[Matthew 6 v10 NIVUK]


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Contributor: Steve Humphreys

Freedom in Lockdown?

[This reflection was published in the weekly news bulletin of Horley Baptist Church, 18/Apr/2021]

Throughout the pandemic we’ve heard a lot of talk in the media about the issue of freedom. As Christians, we sometimes make the mistake of thinking that freedom is just about doing (or buying) whatever we want. We think we’re free because when we want to buy groceries, we can choose between Tesco, Lidl, Iceland or Waitrose – at least if we live in Horley! But what does the Bible teach us about freedom? Surely there’s more to freedom than the right to choose between various brands of cereals and shampoo!

I think the recent periods of lockdown have shown us what a poor understanding of freedom we have in our Western culture today. We think that we’re free as long as the government doesn’t stop us from going to the pub. But when the lockdown restrictions are eventually lifted – and when we’re allowed back into pubs, restaurants, shops, etc. – the fact remains that if we don’t have Christ, we’ll still be in spiritual lockdown, regardless of whatever Boris Johnson tells us we can and can’t do.

God’s Word teaches us that “freedom” without God is just another word for slavery to self. Freedom isn’t just a matter of doing whatever we want or acting on our impulses. When we just do what we want without thinking about God, we become slaves to our own emotions and instincts. This is why “freedom without God” is a contradiction. It’s only by following Christ that we can find true freedom.

So regardless of whatever outward restrictions might be imposed during lockdowns, this is a good time to think about what it means to be free in Christ. Let’s learn to trust in the promise of God that if Jesus sets us free, then we really will be free indeed (John 8:36).


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Contributor: Joshua T. Searle

Who’s In Charge of Your Life?

[Transcript of a midweek message published by Horley Baptist Church on YouTube[1], April 2021]

The story that humanity has most believed in is that life is better when we are in charge. It’s the oldest Alternative Fact, and we fall for it time and time again. Have you?

On Sunday we started our new teaching series, ‘Alternative Facts’. It’s based on a phrase that was used by the Trump press team a few years ago and the idea being that alternative facts are telling a different story. You may view a situation or occasion like this but we view it like that. You are offering alternative facts. Actually in life we all sign up to, we believe in, alternative facts, a different story about who we are and the world that we live in. For us who are maybe a people of faith it’s about the sort of God that we believe in.

There’s an occasion right in the beginning of the Bible, the first book of the Bible, Genesis, where we hear how God created the universe and the world that we live in, and when you get a couple of chapters in, we’re introduced to a serpent who is called the most crafty of all the creatures created. He goes to the first humans. Adam and Eve, and offers them alternative facts. He goes to them and says to them – to Eve – ‘surely God hasn’t said that you can’t eat of any tree in the garden?’ and Eve corrects him because God had told them that they could eat of any tree in the garden of Eden apart from one tree – the Tree of the Knowledge of Good and Evil. God said that ‘if you eat of this tree you will die’.

The serpent said ‘Look, you’re not going to die; it’s just that God wants to keep all the power to himself, to keep you little. You don’t need to stay like that. Eat of this tree and you will be like God yourself.’ He offers alternative facts, a different story where God is power-hungry, God is a tyrant, God is a liar, God wants to keep humanity small and ignorant. The thing is, Eve believed the serpent, eats the fruit, passes it on to Adam who also has a try himself.

What we see in Genesis is the downward spiral of the first half of humanity deciding that they are gods; they decide to take control of their own lives, of their own destiny. We see humanity becoming progressively more evil, more separated from their creator, further away from who God intended them to be.

As you read through the Bible in its entirety you see this spiral again and again and again despite maybe a few pin-pricks of light in the Biblical narrative of people who actually had the heart of God, like king David, who actually listened to God, who did what God had asked of them. Actually in the vast majority of cases humanity rejected God, they believed a different story, they signed up to alternative facts and they became the king of their lives.

I heard it said recently that the difference between a convert to Jesus Christ and someone who is a disciple of Jesus Christ is that a disciple has made Jesus king, that Jesus is lord of their lives, that they make their decisions, they choose the direction not on their wants or desires but on what God, what Jesus wants of their life; the place where they are being guided to by God.

That’s a real challenge, isn’t it? Who is king of your life? Who’s in charge, who makes the decisions?. Do you do want you want to do? Do you do what makes you feel right? Do you do those things that are based on the story that you have signed up to? How do you chose what you spend your money on, the job that you take, the places that you live? Is it based on you, or is it based on God’s calling on your life? Do you ever seek to know or understand what God’s calling is on your life.

You see, in that Biblical story of humanity there is one man that didn’t sign up to the alternative story offered by the devil, by Satan, by the serpent, and that man was Jesus, and you can read in the Gospel stories of how just before he started his earthly ministry he goes out to the wilderness and it says that he is tempted, he is tested by the devil. He is sold a different story, he is offered power and authority, he is offered the chance to be his own king, and Jesus says ‘No!’.

Jesus offers us the same opportunity, that same choice to say ‘No’ to Satan, to say ‘No’ to the lies spoken about God and the lies spoken about us, to say ‘No’ to being king of our own lives, in the words of Frank Sinatra, ‘to do it my way’ and instead find out the joy and the fullness of living a life under God’s kingship, God’s rule rather than our own.

What choice have you made, and what choice will you make?


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Contributor: Martin Shorey

Iron Sharpens Iron

[Transcript of “A 5 minute cuppa” published by Horley Baptist Church on YouTube[1], April 2021]
Sandy

Hi everyone, welcome to ‘a five minute cuppa’. This is the place that you can come any time of day, just for five minutes, to relax, put your feet up, have a cuppa and listen to a few words to help you grow in your relationship with God.

In our five minute cuppa sessions we have been thinking about how we can develop our relationship with our heavenly Father and draw closer to him in a way that will make a real difference to our lives. We’ve talked about the importance of having a secret place to regularly pause with God and how to develop two-way communication where hearing his voice in our lives becomes just as real as the words, thoughts and heart attitude we have towards him. Today we’re going to think about the part that other people play in helping us to develop a closer relationship with God.

It was God’s intention that as we grow in relationship with him that we do this alongside others. The Bible talks about walking with the wise to become wise. It is our highest calling, after loving God, to love others but not everyone that God calls us to love is wise. I have found that in seeking to grow closer to God I have also had to recognize those on a similar journey and intentionally spend time with people who are like-minded. There is a phrase in Proverbs that says “as iron sharpens iron so one person sharpens another”. When I think of this I imagine two iron rods rubbing against each other and causing friction that creates a spark. Similarly, I believe that God wants us all to have those relationships where our love for one another also causes us to challenge one another so we have an opportunity to grow and become more effective people.

One thing I’ve noticed over my years relating to people in a church context and even with friends and family is that often we don’t do conflict or address difficult situations well. We can sometimes be too nice, thinking that by ignoring problems and not rocking the boat we are doing the most loving thing. By taking this approach, though, we can feed the spiritual atmosphere that causes us to become stuck in ways that are unhelpful to our relationships, even doing them long-term damage. I’m so thankful to have had people in my life that have loved me enough to take the time to understand what’s been going on with my thought patterns and have fed in questions or wise words that have set me on a better path where I’ve been able to confront issues and prayerfully battle through to find God-confidence and peace.

When I think about these people I notice some precious but rarely seen characteristics. ‘Iron sharpeners’ are curious about the people they talk to, they give people their full attention and presence, they have an ear open to the Holy Spirit so that Godly wisdom, rather than just human wisdom, feeds the atmosphere, They have a knack of asking questions that stop people in their tracks and make them think; that, as the conversation progresses, really help to get to the heart of the matter, creating that spark needed to find the right path. I really believe that pausing and being present with someone is one of the greatest gifts you can give them.

I wonder when was the last time you experienced someone doing this for you; when was the last time you did this for someone else? If you want to experience this kind of relationship of trust both the receiving and the giving then just ask for it. Ask for the faith too to walk in this, to be able to sustain a relationship through the sparks without running to take cover. Look out eagerly for the people God brings along your path and take the opportunities he gives. These relationships really are a gift if we are prepared to take them and part of what Jesus promised when he said that one of the reasons for him coming was that he wants us to experience life in all of its fullness.


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Bible references: Proverbs 27 v17
 

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Contributor: Sandy Turner

Fashion Model? – Dream-on!

[This is one in a series of mid-week Reflections published by Horley Baptist Church during April 2021]

For many people, the mention of Joseph conjures up a picture of a precocious teenager strutting around, showing off the latest fashion and expecting everyone to admire him. In a car park full of Beetles he’d be the one with the Porsche.

I have recently read a new commentary on the life of Joseph[1]. The author notes the various periods between the ‘highlights’ in Joseph’s life and uses them as an illustration of how the thread of God’s timing can be traced throughout His plan of redemption. It is an interesting lead to follow so let us explore it for ourselves.

What was Joseph doing in those teenage years before his brothers finally got fed up with his impressions of a peacock? Did he learn to cook like his father had done? Might he have been honing domestic skills that would one day be valued by a future employer?

What where his thoughts during that trek from Dotham to the Egyptian capital? Three hundred miles behind a camel, watching where he put his feet, he no doubt reflected upon how his circumstances had changed. Did he learn humility? Did he turn to the God of his father, grandfather and great-grandfather?

Amidst the dust and despondency of the slave market, what was it that drew Potiphar’s attention to Joseph? We are not told how long Joseph worked for Potiphar but we do know the impact he had there.

From the time he (Potiphar) put him in charge of his household and of all that he owned, the Lord blessed the household of the Egyptian because of Joseph. [Genesis 39 v 5 NIVUK]

No doubt, in his time as a member of Potiphar’s household he learnt how Egyptian society functioned, another experience that will prove useful in his later life. But then, another reversal of fortune: a false accusation lands him in prison. We do not know how long he spent in prison but once again he made his talents were noticed:

The warder paid no attention to anything under Joseph’s care, because the Lord was with Joseph and gave him success in whatever he did. [Genesis 39 v 23 NIVUK]

Was Joseph just marking time in prison whilst God was occupied elsewhere? There was a vision of hope when the baker and cup-bearer dropped in for a sleep-over but the normal prison routine soon returned. What did Joseph learn during that time? Maybe his experiences with Egypt’s underworld were helpful when his brothers showed up.

Then Pharaoh had a severe case of insomnia. The future of the nation was at risk and Pharaoh’s advisors could not explain how to tackle the threat. Eventually Joseph was consulted and, as most of us know, he came up with an idea that Pharaoh liked.

So Pharaoh said to Joseph, ‘I hereby put you in charge of the whole land of Egypt.’ [Genesis 41 v41 NIVUK]

Potiphar, prison, Pharaoh – all prospered because of Joseph’s trust in God.

What have you learnt during those years that your biographer would skip over? Does your faith make a difference to those around you? Who else benefits from your trust in God?


[1] ‘Joseph: God Meant It for Good’, Robert Norman (ISBN 978 1 64999 358 8)

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Contributor: Steve Humphreys